My Kid Won't Brush or Floss - What Should I Do?

Brushing battles are real. If your child puts up a fight every time you reach for the toothbrush, you’re not alone. But don’t stress; it is possible to turn brushing and flossing into a positive part of the day (with fewer meltdowns in the bathroom).

Start Small and Keep It Routine

Little habits add up. When cleaning their teeth becomes part of the daily routine, just like putting on socks or packing the lunchbox, it starts to stick. Try linking it to other set parts of the day, like right after brekkie and before storytime. Keep things predictable so your kid knows what’s coming next.

Don’t worry if they skip a brush here or there; aim for consistency, not perfection.

Use Music or Songs to Keep Things Moving

Toothbrushing doesn’t have to be boring. A fun two-minute song can help pass the time and distract from the “ugh, do I have to?” moments. You’ll find plenty online made just for kids.

Some electric toothbrushes even come with lights or tunes built in—turning a chore into a mini disco in the bathroom.

Brush Together and Lead the Way

Kids love copying grown-ups. Brushing your own teeth at the same time shows them it’s something everyone does, not just a rule for them. Turn it into a family activity—funny faces in the mirror, brushing races, whatever works. Leading by example is often the best motivator.

Try a Reward Chart to Track Progress

Visual reinforcement can be a powerful motivator. A simple sticker chart can do wonders. Let your child pop on a star every time they brush and floss. When they fill a row or hit a full week, offer a reward—maybe a playdate, a trip to the park, or getting to pick the movie for movie night. Just steer clear of lollies as a prize.

How to Talk About Oral Health with Young Kids

You don’t need a big lecture—just simple, honest explanations. Say things like, “Brushing gets the germs off your teeth” or “Flossing helps keep your smile strong.” The goal is to help them connect the action with feeling good, not fear of the dentist chair.

When brushing is relaxed and playful, it becomes a habit instead of a hassle.